as many of you know, phillip and i have been engaged for about four months now. not wanting to rush the engagement excitement, we didn’t seriously begin forming wedding ideas or plans until about february. now, i am not the typical bride in that i wouldn’t say i’ve had a dream wedding in mind since my childhood. however, i would say i have a pretty strong sense of design and personal style that i would ideally incorporate into our big day. among all the things every couple wants for their wedding day, in the end a celebration that equally represents phillip and me is certainly the goal.
now, in an effort to begin sourcing ideas that might fit well with our style, i must admit that i have already done my fair share of magazine perusing. i think my mother, kari, and i went through about ten over the Christmas break just ourselves, and i know for certain that i have two editions of the knot: georgia sitting in my shoulder bag at the moment. as i looked (and continue to look) through these glossy pages full of tips and tricks and diy secrets, one thing became glaringly clear to me: planning a wedding involves nearly a countless number of decisions. from the venue to the caterer to the photographer and hotel, just thinking about all the things to be done can cause a couple to feel overwhelmed.
beyond the pressure that the modern wedding industry has forced on us (particularly the brides), there is the added sense of anticipation from those who will attend the big day. we’re all guilty of gossiping about a wedding afterwards (or even during it). for example, “the colors she picked are so out of season.” or, “this fish is dry, and the green beans are rubbery.” or, perhaps, the worst of them all, “this dj is trash!” yes, we all do it and will continue to do so because, like many other things in life, we often think we can do better on something we have no involvement with whatsoever.
now, i’m not staying i’m excluding myself from the wedding gossip cycle. we’re all human and it’s something that comes with the territory. however, this desire to please a large crowd of people whose opinions you value greatly only adds more stress to something that is already so stressful in nature. although i’d like to put myself above the fray on this one (because i tend to be pretty organized and confident), i know there will be moments when i am subject to it all just like every other person in this position.
so! where am i going with all of this, you ask? i’ll tell you exactly where all of this is going. i am going to document (and count) each decision phillip and i have to make to plan this wedding. this adventure is two-fold: first, we’ll be able to quantify, in some way, just how much work is required in planning a wedding these days. second, i’ll get to celebrate a small victory with each choice we make throughout this process.
i think it will be a joyous, exciting, and unpredictable journey. so, strap yourself in and let’s see where this road takes us!